Hot Girls Opt Out: Choosing yourself doesn’t have to be loud, just real.

Have you ever found yourself sitting in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, emotionally squirming, but staying anyway?

Not because you wanted to… but because walking away felt harder than enduring it?

Same. I’ve done this most of my life.

Even with therapy and plenty of professional insight under my belt, I still find myself slipping into those old patterns where someone else’s comfort takes priority over my peace.

The truth is: you set the standard for what you accept.

And what kind of life are we really living if we always put ourselves last?

If you’re anything like me, you were raised to be “a good girl.” Keep yourself under wraps.

Don’t rock the boat. Speak softly.

Don’t laugh too loud, it’s not lady like.

Cry quietly.

Keep your feelings tucked away.

Smile when it hurts.

Be agreeable.

Don’t make it awkward.

Little by little, that “good girl conditioning” trains us to tolerate discomfort like it's our job. I’m not talking about grit or resilience here. I mean the kind of discomfort where your gut says “I don’t want to be here”...

but you stay anyway, silently coaching yourself to breathe through it, telling yourself it’s almost over.

This week, I’m reminding myself, and maybe you too: It’s okay to opt out of what doesn’t feel good. Even if it’s uncomfortable to say no. Even if it makes someone else feel something.

I get it though. It’s not always easy. There were times in my life when I stayed in situations that made me uncomfortable because I didn’t have the mental or emotional capacity to make a change. But deep down, I knew, my silence wasn’t strength. It was survival.

And the more I sacrificed my peace to keep someone else comfortable, the more lost, resentful, and empty I became.

Everything shifted when I started choosing myself in small ways.

Not the dramatic kind of choices you post about. But private, personal decisions that told my nervous system: you’re allowed to take up space.

Things like:

• Saying “No thank you” to a conversation I didn’t want to have

• Giving myself permission to leave the room, not just the topic

• Setting a boundary with love, but firmness

• And yes...even booking a Brazilian wax

  
  

Yep, we’re going there.

And if you’ve never had a wax before (but you’ve thought about it) you’re not alone. So many women have told me quietly, “I’ve always kind of wanted to try, but the idea of showing someone my whole everything… it just feels way too vulnerable.”

If that’s you, I just want to say...I get it.

It can feel incredibly uncomfortable to even think about letting someone into that much of your personal space, especially when you've been taught to hide, shrink, or only be seen when you're "ready."

But here’s the truth: Your body is not too much. Your comfort matters. And around here, it’s never about judgment, it’s about helping you feel safe in your skin.

It’s okay to be nervous. It’s okay to need a little more time. And if you ever do decide to go for it, just know… I will always honor the courage it takes to walk through the door.

Because for so many of us, waxing isn’t about the hair, it’s about healing our relationship with our body, one vulnerable moment at a time.

One of the most unexpectedly empowering choices I ever made was prioritizing intimate waxing .Not for a man. Not for summer. Just for me.

There is something wildly self-honoring about doing something that makes you feel clean, confident, and high-value in your own skin. It’s a reminder that your body is yours. Your comfort matters. And you don’t have to justify your preferences.

Yes, a Brazilian wax leaves you smooth and free from razor burn…but it also wakes up a bit of fire in your soul.

A little “I know I’m worth it all” energy.

It’s this quiet, ancestral feeling of power that gets a little louder every time I get waxed.

It’s a reminder: You are the magic. You are the power. You are the driving force of your life.

For me, waxing has always been more than skin deep. It’s one of the ways I return to myself. I feel cleaner. Fresher. Less weighed down. A little scandalous in the best way. And fully, completely mine.

So if your glow-up this week looks like choosing your comfort, setting a boundary, or booking a wax you’ve been putting off...I say do it.

Because when you feel this good in your own skin, you stop shrinking to fit anywhere that was never made for you.

Ready to show me your whole everything? (Kidding... kind of.)

If this is your first time (or your first time in a long time) I’ve got you.

Whether you're walking in full of confidence or with a nervous laugh, you’ll be met with care, zero judgment, and the kind of energy that makes you feel like your best self is already here.

Book your wax now and come claim that fresh, fire-in-your-soul kind of confidence. You’re gonna walk out feeling like you again, just smoother.

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